Saturday, July 20, 2024

Building Bridges

Why does every conversation with my partner turn into an argument?


Why does my partner never appreciate the things I do for them?


Why do I always feel like I’m walking on eggshells in my relationship?


When did my relationship turn so difficult?


If you’re experiencing these thoughts, you’re not alone. 

Relationships demand commitment, support, and love. Sometimes, life gets busy, and we don’t have the time to nurture our relationships as we should. It’s easy for partners to take each other for granted or to assume that the other should understand their reactions and needs implicitly. This can lead to feelings of being unsupported or misunderstood.

Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward addressing them and rebuilding a healthier, more respectful connection. 

To initiate change, you must first acknowledge that there is a problem and commit to working on it. Whether it’s setting aside time each day to discuss your concerns or scheduling an appointment with a therapist, taking proactive steps is crucial to building a solid foundation for your relationship.

When I wrote my novel ‘Taste of Fate’, I wanted to present a picture of healthy relationship dynamics set in an engaging narrative. 

There are many lines that are close to my thought and ideology but this one encapsulates the essence of an ideal relationship, “A healthy relationship is a dynamic exchange, a continuous give-and-take where both partners contribute to the growth and well-being of the union.”

Communication is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship, enabling partners to express their needs, desires, and concerns openly. It fosters understanding and trust by allowing both individuals to address issues before they escalate. 

When both voices are heard and valued in a relationship, there is synergy. 

Take time today to nurture your relationship. 

Call your partner and say how much you love them. 

Schedule a date night and find joy in nurturing conversations. 

Remember, life is enriched by meaningful relationships, and it all begins at home. 

Wishing you an amazing weekend filled with love and laughter. Here’s to authentic relationships lighting up our lives.


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To know more about my view on relationships, check out my novel ‘Taste of Fate’ on Amazon. It is free on Kindle Unlimited and is Amazon’s Top 5 Bestseller for four months now.https://www.amazon.in/dp/B0CWLQJCZT




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Wednesday, July 3, 2024

RECLAIM YOUR AURA

Have you ever felt drained around a person?

Has someone’s aura put a damper on your positivity?

Do you find yourself avoiding certain individuals because they seem to suck the energy out of you?

If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions, you’ve likely encountered what many refer to as “energy vampires.”

I did my certification in energy healing and realized that the concept of an energy vampire is indeed valid in the alternative healing beliefs. Even though it is not a validated concept in the scientific framework, I personally feel there is some merit to this term that exists in the metaphysical realm.

Energy vampires are individuals who, intentionally or unintentionally, drain your emotional and mental energy.

They thrive on your attention and can leave you feeling exhausted, stressed, and overwhelmed. These individuals often exhibit characteristics such as constant negativity, excessive complaining, or a tendency to create drama.

However, it's not just about whining or negative topics; they also criticize you, push you into a corner, and drain all positivity out of you.

For fans of the Harry Potter series, the term “dementor” might ring a bell. Dementors are dark creatures that feed on human happiness, leaving their victims feeling cold and despondent. While energy vampires don’t have the supernatural ability to literally suck out your soul, the impact they have can feel strikingly similar.

 Just as dementors leave their victims feeling hopeless, energy vampires can sap your motivation and enthusiasm.

Identifying energy vampires in your life is the first step to managing their impact.

Some signs that someone might be an energy vampire include:

·        ~  They always focus on the negative aspects of life and rarely having anything positive to say.

·         ~ They are often at the center of conflict or chaos, stirring up drama wherever they go.

·         ~ These individuals crave constant attention and validation, often monopolizing conversations.

·       ~  They consistently portray themselves as the victim in every situation, refusing to take responsibility for their actions.

·        ~  They criticise you relentlessly, undermining your confidence and making you feel trapped.

If you had a face in your mind as you read this, it is your hint to act and reclaim your aura back.

While it’s tempting to avoid energy vampires altogether, this isn’t always possible, especially if the person is a boss, family member, or someone you encounter regularly.

Here are some practical tips to help you cope:

·         Establish clear boundaries regarding what topics you’re willing to discuss and how much time you’re willing to spend with them.

·         Politely but firmly enforce these limits. Reduce the amount of time you spend with them whenever possible. If you can’t avoid them entirely, try to limit interactions to shorter, more manageable periods.

·         Counter their negativity with positivity. While it’s important not to engage in toxic positivity, maintaining a hopeful outlook can help mitigate their draining effect. Understand their perspective without getting emotionally involved. This can help you stay detached and protect your energy.

·         Practice deep breathing, visualization, or other grounding techniques before and after interactions to help maintain your emotional balance.

If dealing with an energy vampire becomes overwhelming, talk to a friend, therapist, or counselor for support and guidance.

Remember that it is important to protect your emotional well-being and maintain your positive outlook. Your energy is valuable – guard it wisely.

Wednesday, June 19, 2024

Question the Answers - A toolkit for personal transformation.

 I have finished writing my third book, "Question the Answers". 

As an engineer, shifting to social sciences was a conscious choice to make a difference in the lives of people and spread more hope and positivity. That thought has led me to master’s degrees in philosophy and psychology, and now this bestseller streak as an author. 

In life coaching, we emphasize the importance of "setting intent." Setting intent involves not only defining a clear purpose but also visualizing the desired outcome. This mental imagery helps in aligning actions with goals and maintaining motivation through challenges.

When an intent is pure and backed by conviction, it will lead you onto something bigger than oneself. 

"Question the Answers" is a transformative guide to introspection and personal growth. Filled with thought-provoking questions and insightful reflections, *Question the Answers* invites readers to embark on a journey of self-exploration. Through guided reflection, readers are empowered to navigate life's challenges, make informed decisions, and cultivate a growth-oriented mindset.

I have created a blueprint for pausing amidst life's chaos, reflecting on key facets of life, and reframing perspectives to foster personal reinvention.

"Question the Answers" is designed to be a companion for those seeking to cultivate inner peace, personal growth, and a deeper understanding of themselves and the world around them. 

I hope this book starts an internal dialogue towards finding your passion and setting an intent. Thank you for being part of this journey. I am humbled by the support and love that helped me publish three books in a span of 16 months. 

Thank you for purchasing and loving 'A Balance Called Life' and 'Taste of Fate'. Being accepted in both fiction and non-fiction is a dream come true. Thank you. I appreciate you being part of this amazing journey. 

Here’s to good intents leading to success for all of us.